I am not making this up**. I am not exaggerating or fishing for sympathy to cover for my "insanity" or to excuse my spazzing. My children do not act in this way because I am a bad mother. They don't "learn" these things from me. My son is
diagnosed with a Pervasive Developmental Disorder. My daughter is in no way ordinary, either. And she does not act in this way because she copies her brother (which is why she has been denied evaluations; I consistently get brushed off.) I am an adult and don't have to explain myself, I know this. What I do need to do though is
vent.
My kids will consistently and repeatedly do the following:
- Choose the hardest way to do EVERYTHING
- Pick the most cluttered or dirtiest place at the table to sit
- Do the same wrong thing over and over again, and not learn from their mistakes
- Argue or contradict everything Chantz and I say or tell them to do
- When asked not to do something, do it even more and even worse than before
- And many other things I cannot think of at the moment
If you had to live with this day in and day out, you'd be crazy, too. You would loose it and spaz as I have. You would also need to take medication. You would not need people to ridicule you or make jokes, like "Did your mom take her pills today?" You would not need this because it is rude and undermines your authority over your children, because they are not "magic" pills that stop working if you miss one, they don't start working the first day you take them. These little wonders actually take up to two weeks to work and have side effects during that period that actually make you worse. Mocking is definitely not needed.
I swear to god, if you dealt with what I deal with everyday, you would need some kind of therapy. Because I highly doubt you could handle it either, unless you're a Saint of some holy sort.
They are not bad kids. They do not do this on purpose and they do do these things as often as I say they do them!
**This post is in no way directed at "you" my readers, but the people in my life I deal with daily.
1 comment:
Thanks for the support. Sometimes things get too hard to handle. Tonight, within the space of 5 minutes, my daughter messed up four times, with the final one ending with my dinner on the floor upside down (it was an accident), but I just lost it. I held my patience (for the most part) until that happened.
Unfortunately, when I am not on medication I tend to forget things and get overwhelmed, hence the stress levels go up. My creativity gets a boost, but its not worth the "insanity", lol. Luckily, my youngest at 11 mos so far is very typical and can self soothe. Austin (10yrs old) came out screaming....
Chantz is more supportive than he used to be, and the kids drive him nuts, too. But he tends to bury himself in work or hide in the basement. Sending Austin back to school will help a lot, even at half days, so I can have some "me time". Austin gets SSI and it is nice to have. Thanks again, I have a lot on my plate right now.
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